26 Apr
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Self-Sabotage

Check yourself before you wreck yourself.—Karima Mariama

We’ve all been there.  Our confidence levels have slipped; our “gremlins” are telling us “no” when our inner self is telling us “yes, you can do it”.  We’re hesitant to move forward, and we sometimes stall or tune out.

Karima Mariama provides 5 Self-Sabotaging Behaviors we should be aware of and make efforts to avoid.

1. Comparing yourself to others
Too much focus on others is bad for business and worse for self-confidence. (That does not mean we can’t learn from others, but if we’re constantly comparing, we’ll always find someone that “does it better”).

2. Failure to take risks and consistently challenge yourself
The most successful people are always pushing limits and expanding boundaries. Accept that things don’t always go as planned, but don’t settle. Be persistent; and always strive for new ways to do more.

3. Succumbing to distractions
Increase your ability to accomplish tasks by limiting your access to certain distractions. Be cognizant of the time spent on social media and your cell phone – is it time well spent?

4. Inaction
Part of the reason we procrastinate is because we look at big projects and we don’t know where to start. Break the required actions into smaller components and don’t be afraid to ask for assistance when needed.

5. An unwillingness to relinquish past mistakes
Try to tune out the negative self-talk; Be kind to yourself. Remember, to err is human; to forgive yourself is divine.

Mistakes and missteps happen; we need to own them, learn from them, and assess what to do differently so they are not repeated. We also need to avoid self-sabotage.

In the words of Travis Bradberry: Smart, successful people are by no means immune to making mistakes; they simply have the tools in place to learn from their errors.

Indeed!

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19 Apr
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The Enforcer

Never lose sight of the fact that the most important yardstick of your success will be how you treat other people – your family, friends, and coworkers, and even strangers you meet along the way.—Barbara Bush

This week Barbara Bush, both the wife and mother of former U.S. Presidents, passed away.  She was known for her humor (sometimes biting), her fondness for wearing pearls, and she was lovingly referred to as “the enforcer”.

Although not a political leader, she was a leader in her own right. She focused on nonpartisan social issues, and volunteered and promoted causes that would especially help children.

Mrs. Bush’s quote reminded us of another quote: I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.— Maya Angelou

As leaders, we’ll at some point find it necessary to deliver tough messages, but it can be done in an honoring way and with aplomb. We may need to practice our delivery to ensure our message is clearly understood, that it is delivered with compassion, and that those impacted are not left feeling that they were treated disrespectfully.

In the past we’ve highlighted behaviors that Jim Rohn (author and motivational speaker) identified as key leadership traits, and it never hurts to repeat them:

  • Learn to be strong but not impolite
  • Learn to be kind but not weak
  • Learn to be bold but not a bully
  • Learn to be humble but not timid
  • Learn to be proud but not arrogant
  • Learn to develop humor without folly
  • Learn to deal in realities

Depending on the situation and the role we play, we too may be viewed as an enforcer, but if we apply our leadership skills effectively, our “yardstick of success” for how we treat others can still be favorable.

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12 Apr
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Collaborative – Yes or No?

Collaboration divides the task and multiplies the success.–unknown

In the past couple of weeks we’ve talked about two conflict styles – avoiding and competing.  Both have their down-sides, and both have situations when they can be used effectively.

As leaders we need to understand that conflict in the workplace in inevitable, and we need to know when to leverage each conflict mode so the differences don’t escalate into unhealthy situations.

This week we’ll share information about conflict style COLLABORATIVE. This style is viewed as a “win-win” since those with opposing views work together to find a solution that fully satisfies each of their concerns.

Skills associated with using the collaborative style include:

  • Identify both people’s underlying concerns
  • Create conditions that enable collaboration
  • State the conflict as a mutual problem
  • Analyze input with an open mind
  • Listen objectively and respond positively
  • Brainstorm solutions and pick the best one
  • Be open to the notion that what you felt initially may be replaced by a better solution

Ralph H. Kilmann, co-author of the Thomas-Kilmann Instrument (TKI) published a research study that correlated the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) results with TKI.

The findings reflected that people who were extraverted (those with “E” as the first letter of their MBTI type) were more likely to use the collaborative mode during times of conflict. He felt this was because collaborating required extra energy for the interactions required for discussing concerns with others.

He also felt that with awareness, those that typed out as “I” (introvert) can choose to engage in collaborative discussions when they’re willing and comfortable with putting forth extra effort.

Can you think of a time when the collaborative style would not serve you well? In general, it’s the most optimal style to use, but because it is time consuming, you may need to leverage other styles to drive solutions when time is of the essence.

Remember, all conflict modes have a time and place; effective leaders know when each style is most appropriate.

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05 Apr
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Do You Have A Need To Win?

I would submit effectively dealing with conflict is one of the most valuable skills a leader can possess.—Mike Myatt

Last week we talked about how many leaders struggle with addressing conflict, and as a result the conflict is sometimes avoided. We also shared that there is a time and place to be an “avoider”, but when used inappropriately, avoiders may be viewed as weak and unassertive.

Now we’re switching gears. Do you have a need to win? Are you uncooperative and assertive? Are you power oriented? If yes, you’ll likely score high in the “compete” style.  This style may not serve you well. You may win, but it also means someone loses; not an ideal work relationship!

For those familiar with the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator® (MBTI), the types most aligned with the competitive style are types ESTJ (extroverted-sensing-thinking-judging) and ENTJ (extroverted-intuitive-thinking-judging).

These types prefer facts and data, and may not be as concerned about the feelings and impact their style may have on others. Just something to be aware of!

All styles have a time and place and the compete mode is no different. It can be effective when:

  • You’ve considered all styles and competing is truly the most effective
  • Quick, decisive actions are vital (ex. emergencies)
  • When unpopular actions are mandated/non-negotiable (ex. cost cutting, audit points, rule enforcement)
  • When a stand must be taken and there is not time for collaboration
  • Defending something you know is correct
  • When one’s position is being challenged/insubordination occurs

We suggest using this style on a limited basis as the consequences may include:

  • Feelings of intimidation which may shut down lines of communication
  • Strained relationships
  • Resentment and retaliation
  • A lack of commitment
  • A lack of caring

When there is a need to use the “compete” mode, pay special attention to your tone and body language. There’s no need to make the situation even more confrontational than it already is.

As we’ve stated before, conflict in the workplace is unavoidable; what’s key is to prevent the conflict from escalating into an unhealthy situation.  Productivity, communication, collaboration, inspiration, morale, and growth will all suffer if not properly managed.

The “compete” mode has a time place, just use it sparingly!

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29 Mar
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Are You An Avoider?

The whole business starts with ideas, and we’re convinced that ideas come out of an environment of supportive conflict, which is synonymous with appropriate friction.—Michael Eisner, former Disney CEO

Many leaders struggle with addressing conflict – are you one of them? Would you consider yourself an “avoider”?

As leaders, we need to understand the different styles of conflict and their appropriate usage, and we need to remember that conflict is simply any situation where one’s concerns or desires differ from those of another.

Having teams that engage in healthy conflict can promote growth. Team members that feel they are in a “safe” environment will not only build upon the ideas of others, but will be comfortable presenting opposing views and share thoughts that can inspire and promote new ways of thinking.

Avoiding addressing conflict has its appropriate time and place, but most often, leaders that are “avoiders” are labeled as weak, unassertive and uncooperative.  That’s not always the case!

When avoiding is appropriate:

  • When there’s a need to obtain additional details / facts
  • When emotions are high and those involved need to cool down in order to think rationally
  • When the conflict is being addressed in a healthy manner and an “intervention” is not required by you!
  • When the timing is “not right” (ex. location, attendees, sensitive nature)

Conflict in the workplace is unavoidable; what’s key is to prevent the conflict from escalating into an unhealthy situation. Productivity, communication, collaboration, inspiration, morale, and growth will all suffer if not properly managed.

Your response to managing and addressing conflict is entirely up to you. Understand the styles of conflict and when to effectively use them, and empower yourself and others to manage conflict in a healthy, honoring, respectful way.

And yes, being an “avoider” has a time and place!

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22 Mar
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Keep Them Happy!

The best way to retain employees is to stay in touch with what they’re thinking.
—Susan M. Heathfield

Even the best leader struggles with retaining top talent.  Quitting could be the result of life events (ex. career change, family needs), but most reasons are related to the organization itself.

In 2015 we shared the following 4 reasons why top performers quit:

1.   Reward System
2.   Management
3.   Hiring/Promotions
4.   Too Much Work

This year (2018), Human Resource expert Susan M. Heathfield has published what she views as the top ten reasons why employees quit:

1.    Relationship with the boss

2.    Bored and unchallenged with the work

3.    Relationships with co-workers

4.    Opportunities to use their skills and abilities

5.    Contribution of their work to the organization’s business goals

6.    Autonomy and independence on the job

7.    Meaningfulness of the employee’s job

8.    Knowledge about your organization’s financial stability

9.    Overall corporate culture

10.  Management’s recognition of employee job performance

Other studies report that a “bad boss” is the number #1 reason for quitting, but having a relationship with the boss is different. The employee wants feedback, direction, and recognition, with a desire for open lines of communication. Having trust in the relationship is also a plus!

Employees want a stable work environment and they want to feel their contributions are valued and meaningful for the success of their organization. They also want their contributions to be acknowledged.

They want a work environment where relationships exist between team members, and where team members collaborate and build on one another’s ideas.

What type of relationships do you have with your direct reports and peers? Do you know what makes them “tick’?  As a leader what more can you do to stay connected and retain top talent?

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15 Mar
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Masterful Leadership

Leadership―at every level―is the most important factor in whether a team succeeds or fails.
Jocko Willink and Leif Babin, authors/former Navy SEALS

We’ve talked quite a bit about vision, communication, development, passion, collaboration, being a continual learner, and leveraging the strengths of others in order to achieve success and be an effective and influential leader.

Ten highly successful entrepreneurs (and leaders) shared what they viewed as best practices for successfully leading teams and we’re happy to share that many overlap with our beliefs (their findings were published in Success magazine “The Oracles” April 20, 2017).

Below are excerpts for what they feel is required for masterful leadership:

1. Stay true to your vision – an outstanding leader balances two opposing skills: external sensing and internal conviction. –Irene Chang Britt, former president of Pepperidge Farm and board director of Dunkin’ Brands

2. Communicate clearly and often – leaders communicate the organization’s mission and big ideas to their teams and clear roadblocks so their team can execute.– Spencer Rascoff, CEO of Zillow

3. Make yourself, and those around you, better – I’ve made it my mission to support, encourage and create opportunities for my team to achieve what they want.–Tom Ferry, founder and CEO of Tom Ferry International

4. Practice humility –  Humility has charisma.  Arrogance can be repulsive. Be boldly humble.– Mike Zeller, founder of Elevate United Elevate United

5. Check your ego at the door – A willingness to hire people better than you makes for a great leader.– Joe Kakaty, co-founder and president of Poker Cen Poker Cen

6. Supplement your shortcomings – I attract, recruit, nurture and care for the people I hire to run my companies.–John Hanna, author of Way of the Wealthy and CEO of Fairchild Group

7. Keep your people passionate – Passion is a hallmark quality of a masterful leader. It is to focus on activating the hearts of their people.– Allison Dunn, president and CEO of Deliberate Directions and executive business coach

8. Always learn, and ditch stubbornness – I’ll never finish learning or perfecting. No other qualities emulate the impact of constant growth, learning and facing your fears.– Jay Georgi, founder of Nadvia

9. Harness your team members’ strengths – I observe individual abilities and efficiently coordinate my team through knowing everyone’s strengths and weaknesses. I don’t place people in positions to fail. I put them in positions to succeed and achieve more than they thought possible. –Jim Mathers, CEO of North American Energy Advisory, Inc

10. Get everyone on the same page – Creating awareness up the chain of command overcomes the all-too-common culture of reactive, anti-change management and enables you to focus on executing the mission.–Craig Lack, CEO of ENERGI and creator of Performance-Based Health Plans

Which of these best practices are part of your leadership skill-set? Do you apply them daily? Are there any you need to further develop?

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08 Mar
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A New Kind Of Leader

Chief Leadership Officers (CLOs) authentically embrace the business of business and people, not as “human resources” but as human beings – the crucial contributors to organizational success.—Kevin W. McCarthy

Are you familiar with the role of CLO? Kevin W. McCarthy wrote a book entitled CHIEF LEADERSHIP OFFICER. Mr. McCarthy feels that new and challenging times call for new leadership roles that include:

  • Position the organization to be a leader in its chosen field
  • Position each person to be leaders on and off their jobs
  • Meaningfully integrate the two above so everyone profits (financial gain is just one aspect of profit)

Mr. McCarthy explains that the role of CLO is a way of life and also a manner of doing business “where purpose, people, and performance are increasing wealth so everyone profits”.

A Chief Leadership Officer® Integrity Map is provided in the book and is comprised of Articulation, Synthesis, Development, Performance and Re-think. You start with “on purpose” statements that support your purpose, vision, mission and values. (We think this aligns well with PeopleTek’s concept that ALL behaviors must support your Vision, Mission, Goals and Measures).

A CLO checklist is also provided and is divided into 3 categories that help with the transition of the CEO leadership mentality to that of CLO:

Personal Leadership Development – There are 8 components; one is: I have written my personal 2-word Purpose, Vision(s), Missions, and Values (PVMV)

Professional Leadership Development – There are 7 components; one is: I have one or more trusted team member(s) with complementary talents for collaborative efforts

Business Leadership Development – There are 17 components; one is: Our Service Model™ links our PVMV, Plan, People, Processes, and Performance to serve our Customer Chains within our Values

A CLO “has a heart for service, a head for profit, the resilience of the military, and a moral imperative”. Are you ready to be a new kind of leader?

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01 Mar
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Happy Workplace?

Even if you’re not a business leader, you can still take an active part
in a cultural transformation.– FORTUNE March 2018

Would you say that you are part of a “happy workplace?  If yes, what’s your rationale, and if no, what are the dissatisfiers?

This week FORTUNE magazine featured an article by company GREAT PLACE TO WORK where they summarized survey results for identifying the “100 Best Companies To Work For/2018”. Millions of employees in more than 50 countries were surveyed to obtain perspectives about what makes an exemplary workplace.

The six components within the survey included: Values, Innovation, Financial Growth, Leadership Effectiveness, Maximizing Human Potential, and Trust. Bottom line, it’s all about how the workplace culture creates growth and excellence, and the metrics now include ratings for all levels and positions, or in their words “for all”.

We won’t list all the companies, but SalesForce scored first place. The primary reason? Their corporate culture. (Having a favorable work culture was the most common factor in the 100 Best Companies” list.

Some other commonalities across companies included:

  • Create a culture that can withstand conflict and varying views (even encourage it!)
  • Create a culture of transparency
  • Create a culture that is “open, friendly, diverse, and team oriented”
  • Support your employees (at work and in their personal life)
  • Ensure work/life balance is more than just a motto
  • Remain neutral politically (regardless of your feelings)
  • Invest in your people
  • Truly embrace diversityBuild trusting relationships between employees and management
  • “Every voice matters” – engage employees of all levels
  • Thank, appreciate, and reward successes
  • Have clearly defined and unifying goals
  • Offer flexible work hours
  • Possess a desire to see others succeed
  • Ensure your leadership team is caring, approachable, and inspiring

One final point of interest in the article was that “trust fuels business performance but inclusiveness or “for all” accelerates it. Organizations that scored high on measures of inclusivity grew revenue three times as fast as rivals”.

What are you doing to make your teams/staff feel included?

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22 Feb
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Self Control

Self-control, an essential quality for any leader and team if they are going to perform near to their capability. It is necessary that the leader demonstrates self-control if he expects his team to have self-control. Craig Impelman

How’s your self-control? When your “buttons” are being pushed can you immediately feel the discomfort? And, despite this ill feeling, do you have the ability to think calmly and respond appropriately? It’s not easy.

Having the skill to respond with purpose and remain composed is something that we as leaders need to strive for on a daily basis. We need to continually improve our communication, interactions and relationships with our staff, customers, and situations.

Our level of effectiveness is directly tied to self-control and being aware. We all have hot buttons and we all know individuals that seem to have a “gift” to light those buttons up. Some common items that lend themselves to control issues include:

  • Inaccurate/incomplete information
  • Not being informed of problems
  • Insubordination
  • Lack of commitment or accountability
  • Lack of effort and collaboration

When things happen that we didn’t expect, others are watching us to see how we respond. Once we lose our composure, the damage is done and may not be recovered from even when our composure is restored.

Highly effective leaders are in control of their emotions at all times. We may need to postpone a response, use the restroom, or take an “urgent” call allowing us time to regroup and regain our control.

Remaining calm under pressure takes work. What techniques do you use that enable you to be composed and in control?  Let us know!

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15 Feb
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Employee Excellence

Exceptional employees don’t possess God-given personality traits; they rely on simple, everyday EQ skills that anyone can incorporate into their repertoire.
—Travis Bradberry

How would you define employee excellence? What role do you play to ensure “excellence” comes alive and is leveraged? Travis Bradberry, author of 10 Ways To Spot A Truly Exceptional Employee feels emotional intelligence (EQ) is the key.

Emotional intelligence is the genuine ability to feel emotions, understand what you’re feeling and why, understand how others are feeling, and respond appropriately. And, the best part is that we can increase our EQ through self-development.

Having a high EQ builds relationships and fosters communication and consists of the following 4 areas:

Self Awareness (critical when engaging in communication)
Self Management (key for managing emotions in difficult situations)
Social Awareness (leverages awareness of others to perform at their peak)
Relationship Management (manages relationships to increase job performance and integrates EQ professionally and personally)

Bradberry says the following about exceptional employees:

1.    They neutralize toxic people. Exceptional employees control their interactions with toxic people by keeping their feelings in check and confront the toxic person rationally.

2.    They’re marketable. Exceptional employees are well liked and have integrity and can be trusted to represent the brand well.

3.    They’re accountable. They own their work, their decisions, and all of their results—good or bad.

4.    They recognize when things are broken and fix them. They see problems as issues to be fixed immediately and don’t walk past the problem.

5.    They’re never satisfied. Exceptional employees have unparalleled convictions that things can always be better.

6.    They’re in control of their egos. They’re willing to admit when they’re wrong and are willing to do things someone else’s way to improve results (or the situation).

7.    They’re judiciously courageous. Exceptional employees are willing to speak up when others are not, and they balance this with common sense and timing.

8.    They focus. They can differentiate between real problems and background noise; therefore, they stay focused on what matters.

9.    They can tolerate conflict. While exceptional employees don’t seek conflict, they don’t run away from it either. They maintain their composure in pursuit of the greater goal.

10.   They’re willing to delay gratification. Exceptional employees work outside the boundaries of job descriptions and are not dependent on recognition to do so.

Does your development planning include growing emotional intelligence levels? If you want to increase employee excellence, you may want want to consider it!

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08 Feb
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Stressed?

Stress is an important dragon to slay – or at least tame – in your life.
–Marilu Henner

How’s your stress level at work? Would you say it’s occasional or fairly consistent?

The first step in handling stress is to be aware of it.  Without awareness, stress is in control of you and not the other way around.

Do a simple assessment of the components below, rating your stress level for each as “Low”, “medium”, or “high”.

Job role/characteristics
Too demanding
Not what I thought it was going to be
Work Benefits/compensation
Difficult to get a promotion
Low compensation
Work Schedule
No flexibility
Creates conflict
Work Relationships
None
Conflict ridden
Boss Relationship
Not valued/skills not utilized
Minimal direction / recognition

How many did you rate “high”? We suggest addressing those first. Balance is the key to managing stress; consider what you can do differently to lower your stress levels.

Are you trying too hard? We often have a self-imposed need to compete that adds to our stress. We also don’t take time for the 3 R’s:  Re-charge, re-energize, and relax!

Build in time each day for things you enjoy. (Music, exercise, reading, family time). While at work, stand, stretch, take a walk, and don’t procrastinate! Putting off tasks will only add to your stress.

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