Most of us spend nearly half of our waking hours working. That’s too big a swack of time for you to put up with being unfulfilled. If your work is dragging you down, it affects everything: your relationships, your health, your overall sense of well-being.
I saw my dad make this mistake. He was a great provider for his family and he seemed to like to show his love through money. So, he worked long hours and took the stresses of the job home with him. My dad was caught up in old school thinking: you find a good (i.e. stable) job at a good (i.e. sturdy) company and you put your head down and jam out 30 years. Then the company gives you a retirement package and you’re set.
Your satisfaction is not relevant. You shouldn’t expect to be fulfilled. You are getting paid, after all.
My dad couldn’t see how his dissatisfaction and stress affected everything around him, like a black hole sucking up all the energy around it. He couldn’t get the perspective he needed to think it through, to imagine something different for himself and his family. When he retired, he became a different person: relaxed, fun to be around. Where was this guy all my life? I thought.
My mom didn’t follow her dreams either. She had been an artist her whole life, creating a mural in her parents’ basement when she was 11 and producing comic books at that same age. She was in art school when she met my dad and traveled alone in Italy at age 19 to see the world’s best art.
But she dropped out of college to get married. She stopped making art and settled in to being a housewife and then a mother.
There has always been this sadness, a sense of regret, about my mom. She knew what she loved, yet she let herself be derailed from it. She fell into the expected role of a woman at that time. I think it crushed her spirit.
At some point, I came to realize that I was making the same mistake. I held good jobs with good companies. I was making great money. But I wasn’t having the kind of impact I longed to make. I wanted to help people grow and develop. I want to help people shift their consciousness.
It took a lot of courage to choose to walk away from that and set out to create something on my own.
That proved harder to do than I anticipated. I had a false start in 2006 when I left a corporate job to pursue my PhD and start a coaching practice. I ended up in another corporate gig (but stayed in school).
In 2014, I walked away from Corporate America again, finished my PhD and reestablished my coaching practice. But here’s where things became really difficult.
I was doing what I loved, but I wasn’t doing what I loved. I struggled mightily with the marketing and sales aspects of running a business. I was shocked to find myself demotivated. I wondered what the hell was wrong with me: I’ve got exactly what I want with a coaching business and yet I’m not happy.
It was a process to examine all the limiting beliefs that were holding me back, to discover the scarcity thinking that was keeping me scared, and to conquer my aversion to marketing and sales. Along the way, I worked with amazing coaches and got excellent training in coaching practices and business techniques.
I embraced abundance thinking, unleashed my talents as a manifester on to my business, and found reasons to fall in love with marketing and sales. That kind of enthusiasm is contagious and business took off as a result. I discovered the magic formula and found my love for doing what I loved to do.
I gained a bunch of insights along the way:
- Happiness is an inside job
- Growth demands growing pains
- Our thoughts create our reality
Now, I find my joy in helping other people love Monday. If you’re someone who finds yourself dreading Monday or struggling in your own business, you’ve come to the right place. Have a look around. Read my blog, and if it moves you, set up some time to chat with me.