{"id":10510,"date":"2018-11-08T16:52:16","date_gmt":"2018-11-08T21:52:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/peopletekcoaching.com\/staging\/?p=10510"},"modified":"2021-10-14T21:38:43","modified_gmt":"2021-10-14T21:38:43","slug":"toxic-people","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/peopletekcoaching.com\/staging\/2018\/11\/08\/toxic-people\/","title":{"rendered":"Toxic People"},"content":{"rendered":"

When you notice someone does something toxic the first time, don’t wait
\nfor the second time before you address it or cut them off. . . \u00a0Shahida Arabi<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Let\u2019s be honest. We all know, or have worked with, toxic people who create workplace conflict. Toxicity covers a lot of territory; some examples include poor attitude, lack of commitment and accountability, taking credit for the work of others, whiners\/complainers, finger pointing, intentionally misleading others, and having a closed mindset. (Any others come to mind?).<\/p>\n

Author Dr. Travis Bradberry provides 12 ways to manage toxic people who create workplace conflict (excerpts are):<\/p>\n

Set limits<\/strong>
\nA great way to set limits is to ask complainers how they intend to fix the problem. They may stop complaining to you!<\/p>\n

Choose your battles<\/strong>
\nStand your ground, pick the “right time” to address the conflict, and use your emotional intelligence skills to keep conversations healthy.<\/p>\n

Rise up<\/strong>
\nDon\u2019t allow yourself to respond emotionally and get sucked in; remain fact based.<\/p>\n

Stay aware of your emotions<\/strong>
\nRecognize when your buttons are being pushed. Take the time you need to regroup.<\/p>\n

Establish boundaries<\/strong>
\nDecide when and where you\u2019ll engage a difficult person, this allows you take control.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t let anyone<\/em> limit your joy<\/strong>
\nEmotionally intelligent people don\u2019t let anyone\u2019s opinions or snide remarks take away their sense of accomplishment or “happy” feelings.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t focus on problems\u2014only solutions<\/strong>
\nQuit thinking about how troubling your difficult person is, and instead focus on how you\u2019re going to go about handling them.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t forget<\/strong>
\nEmotionally intelligent people are quick to forgive, but that doesn\u2019t mean that they forget.<\/p>\n

Squash negative self-talk<\/strong>
\nNegative self-talk is unrealistic, unnecessary and self-defeating.<\/p>\n

Limit your caffeine intake<\/strong>
\nCaffeine triggers the release of adrenaline and is the source of “fight-or-flight”.<\/p>\n

Get some sleep<\/strong>
\nSleep has a direct link with increasing emotional intelligence and managing stress.<\/p>\n

Use your support system<\/strong>
\nRecognize the weaknesses in your approach with toxic people and tap into your support system to gain their perspectives.<\/p>\n

What can you do to better manage toxic people who create workplace conflict?<\/p>\n

Toxic people attach themselves like cinder blocks tied to your ankles,
\nand then invite you for a swim in their poisoned waters.\u2015 John Mark Green<\/p><\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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